Giving yourself permission that it's okay to make yourself a priority can be transformative.
Jennifer came to see me last week we have met a few times. This is a similar scenario that has happened many times she was interested in what I do, but was sceptical that I could help.
Jennifer had been holding on to stuff for a long time and she had experienced lots of different therapies, coping strategies etc. She wanted help to learn self help techniques that she could use to manage how she was feeling.
“I know I’m masking how I’m being, but I want to be this person that I’m trying to be and a part of me is but the other part of me feels like I’m stretched myself too far. I get frustrated with myself. My anxiety leads to stress and moodiness and less tolerance. I did think it was anxiety and now I’m hearing about imposter syndrome I also feel like that too”.
Its important working with a person that their feelings are validated and exploring where the self-limiting beliefs come from.
I'm pleased to say after one session last week, the client described the session as, "Transformative".
Here is a clients feedback 2 weeks later,
"I now recognise the woman I've grown into and recognise the challenges I've faced. I congratulate myself now rather than looking for external affirmations from my parents. I am proud of myself. I have the ability to transform my life and I have the inner strength now to do it. I have the capacity to deal with own needs and those of my family. I have emotional freedom, feels liberating". It's like I'm emerging from a pod, my wings are still wet, I've not flown yet. I always limited myself and now I'm hopeful. Its now down to me to keep shifting forward. I have a lot of possibilities, optimism, fresh appetite for future and change".